Inspired by one of the daily post challenge topics, I’ve been thinking about truth.
I’m a pretty terrible liar. There are circumstances where I can pull off a lie if absolutely necessary…but my downfall is sticking to the lie. I’ll forget a week later what I had lied about and say something contradictory resulting in my lie being discovered, which is why I usually avoid the whole lying process. Sometimes I’m forced into it though. I learn a secret that is not mine to tell and I’m forced to remember to keep it always, which is really very stressful and can get complicated. Again, why I avoid the whole business of lying if I can.
But besides my own personal experiences…
Is it better to know the truth, or is ignorance bliss? Like all good questions, there isn’t a clear-cut, black and white answer. We’d all like to think that we want the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth, all the time…but do we really? What if finding out the truth would only hurt you? It wouldn’t change anything in the past or the future…would you still want to know?
Example. Say your best friend is dumped by her boyfriend, and you find out from a reliable source that the boyfriend had cheated on her while they were dating. Should you tell her? They’re broken up now, her knowing that he cheated on her will not bring them back together, and she’s probably wallowing enough as it is without knowing this hurtful truth.
I suppose you could argue that it might help her get over him, knowing that he didn’t treat her well while they were dating; he wasn’t good enough for her anyway. Or you could argue she deserves to know. But you could also argue that your friend could work her way through this break up and emerge a stronger person without ever knowing that her boyfriend cheated on her.
So do you tell her?
Well, don’t look at me. I probably wouldn’t tell her. It’d be bad enough seeing my friend upset over a break up without putting salt in the wound. But it wouldn’t be an easy decision by any means. Plus, I say that now, but actually being in that situation might yield different results.
On the flip side, if you were the one who was dumped…would you want to know that your ex cheated on you? Would it help you move on? Or only hurt you further resulting in a deeper post-break up depression?
They say “honest is the best policy” and for the most part, I’d say that’s true…but it’s not always the easiest policy. I’m more curious as to other people’s thoughts in this topic. What do you think? Is it always more important to know the truth despite your feelings, or the feelings of someone else?
**Disclaimer: the situation described in this post is purely hypothetical. I do not know anyone in this situation, nor am I in this situation. Any relation to persons living or dead is purely coincidental.**